What if someone told you that today is your last day and you’re invited to your own funeral tomorrow afternoon just before sunset? how would you feel about it? would your eyes be filled with tears because you’re going to miss watching your kids growing up and you’re not going to be there for them? will you be disappointed that you haven’t fulfilled your dreams to travel the world or finish that book you’ve always wanted to write and publish?
Shain is a Sydney-based blogger and writer who believes there is much more to life than surviving the mad rat race. A father, a husband, a tennis fan, an IT professional. Looking back at fond memories, looking ahead with big dreams, looking around and trying to focus on the present moment, the positives, the glass-half-full. While still confused, a bit lost sometimes, trying to figure out what is the meaning of all of this, what are we meant to be doing around here, swinging between inspiration and desperation, between hope and despair, constantly Looking For Meaning.
It’s the 21st century, and we are all rushing and running around, chasing success, wealth and dreams. But do we care to stop for a moment and think – how far have we come? What have we achieved? What do we already have that we should NOT take for granted?
When thinking about traveling with children, most people would probably imagine a luxury holiday in a nice resort on a Pacific island, or a flight to classic Europe to see major attractions including Disneyland of course. However, that’s not what I’m talking about. Ever thought about a Caravan Road Trip?
Have you ever had this conversation in your head, or with a friend or colleague? It goes like that: “I hate my job. I’m not learning anything anymore. My career will never progress over there. The job is monotonous and chaotic. All I do is fire fighting. I cannot go on like that. I have to stop lying to myself. It is time to move on”. Well, easier said than done…
Where can you find true leadership these days around the world? Nowhere but the most remote and maybe unexpected place on the globe: New Zealand. Prime Minister Jacinda Ardern has proven to be the only light in a very dark world. While USA, UK, Europe, Russia and Australia are swept by nationalism and trumpism, a dividing leadership which is hardly able to articulate a single sentence without blaming, hating and promoting White Supremacy.
My mum passed away just over a year ago, after fighting Melanoma for nearly 3 years. Apparently 10 years ago, people who were diagnosed with Advanced Melanoma had a very poor prognosis and were literally sent home to start saying their goodbyes to family and friends. In recent years, global research breakthroughs have tripled the life expectancy for advanced melanoma patients. My dear mum was one of these patients.
So you wanna be a writer, and you’re willing to dedicate whatever time you have to write your own special blog, the manuscript you had in the back of your mind since forever, or the novel which would be your first real breakthrough. How do you do that while juggling family, kids, work and everything else in your super busy life?
On a scale of 1 to 10, how would you rate your self-confidence? Would it be right to say that most of the human population is not confident enough in their own abilities? How do we get to the point where we are happy with what we see in the mirror? How good is the feeling of walking with our head up high, where we are true to ourselves and don’t give a damn about what other people think about us? Well, we do care, but we are confident enough in our way so people would just have to accept it.
Here’s a story: we had this short seminar at work where they talked about identifying “Your Strengths” leading towards using them to accomplish your goals. This is when I realised my Top Strength is Prudence. What does that even mean? It’s about time I look inside, stare at the mirror and ask myself some serious questions. It’s time to take more risks and make a change.
You know it’s time for a CHANGE. A Change you have been longing for. For way too long. But you just don’t do enough to make it happen. You keep pushing it back. Procrastinating… Every new year brings the thought of a New Year’s Resolution. This is when we all resolve to change an undesired trait or behavior, to accomplish a personal goal or otherwise improve our life. This could be your time to finally make things happen.
Living away from home? Torn between your obligations to your own family – wife and kids, and the family you have left behind – mum and dad? You chose to live in a different continent, so that’s the price you have to pay – living with endless, consistent, torturous GUILT.
Once you hit the middle age you start experiencing the probability of “the end of the road” around you. Our parents are aging and it’s hard to accept that, however while this is a natural thing after all, you suddenly realise that You and your surrounding friends and colleagues are surprisingly aging as well. Who would have thought!
It’s official. Life is completely hectic. Unless you live in a picturesque village on the mountains away from civilization, your 21st century life is busier than ever. Rush rush rush, you know it’s way too much, but you cannot stop. We find ourselves constantly busy, with an endless list of things to do. So, how can we force ourselves to focus on our most important tasks? Make progress on self-motivated projects? And most importantly, achieve our goals.
Are humans really capable of multitasking? Are some better than others? Are women much better than men? Effectively, when it comes to complicated tasks which require a high degree of concentration, none of us can do it properly unless we are completely focused at it, one task at a time.
Ever thought about what was the hardest decision you had to make in your life? Life tends to take us through different challenges and you might find yourself at a crossroads. Some decisions might be straightforward, while others might take you through an emotional battle, sometimes an unforgiving roller coaster.
Language is an interesting thing, and more so are traditional phrases which are widely used in each and every culture. One of my favorite phrases is in Arabic, and it says: “Kul Kalb Biji Yomo”. So what does it mean? well, it has quite a powerful meaning.
I never actually thought about it, what’s going to happen in the days and months after losing a loved one. Then, about a month after I lost my mum, I came across a new terminology – “The Grieving Process”.
Isn’t life a funny thing? One moment you’re up, the next you’re down. No wonder people refer to life as a roller coaster sometimes. You know what? it actually makes it far more interesting this way. Just imagine life would be same old thing every single day. That would be quite boring, wouldn’t it.
Mum passed away. After a long battle with cancer, she eventually gave in. I was there to say goodbye, I love you and thank you for everything you have given me. And sorry for not being there enough.
I’m very proud of most of the things I have done so far in life, and I’m confident in the choices I have made, no regrets. However, there is still a feeling that something is missing. Occasionally, I’m having these thoughts of not fulfilling my full potential, of not doing the things I really want to do every day. And I wonder, how do you figure out what is your purpose in this life?
Technology keeps the people who are physically remote to you, close to you. But it keeps the people who are physically close to you, away from you.
Guilt is a terrible thing. When you live with it day in and day out it’s not really helping to get you going through the days. It’s holding you back from feeling happy about your life and the choices you have made. Why am I feeling this way? Because I left behind my parents, they are not getting any younger and their medical condition is worsening as the days go by. And so, I’m kicking myself for not being there for them, living close to them.
Every parent would tell you the teenage years are such a joy. There are so many theories and explanations about why it is the way it is, effectively way more complicated than what it should be. Add to that the online social networks and we got a much wider problem, because now it’s not only the other school kids we have to worry about, it’s the world wide web. Life as a teenager can be quite complicated. But it doesn’t have to be like that.
Many of us get dragged by the capitalism of today’s western society, often unhappy with what we’ve got and forever chasing life to gain more and more. While capitalism focuses on the financial side of things, the flip side of the coin is how well we cope mentally with our own reality, with the choices we have made, and our state of mind. Why do we lack any appreciation of what we got, and carry on with our lives feeling unhappy and unfortunate?
Roger is the King of Tennis, the most admirable Champion, a Legend, the fans’ Favorite everywhere he goes around the world, the Greatest Of All Time (a.k.a the GOAT). He is, in fact, a lot more than a tennis persona or an athlete. He truly is an inspiration, which is clearly evident when you read through some of Roger’s famous quotes.
Whether you’re a tennis fan or not, it’s quite fascinating to see how a tennis match resembles life itself, facing and overcoming challenges and having to do your very best to win. Here are a few reasons why.
Here’s an interesting exercise for you. Take a pen and a paper, write down your list of personal “core values” in order of priority. Revisit your list and make sure you prioritise it in the right order – top item is the most important value in your life, and so on. The list would change over the years, as we progress and age in life, so the order of your personal values when you’re in your 20s is likely to be different to when you’re in your 40s.
When was the last time you told your mum & dad that you love them? That you appreciate all they have done for you over the years? Unfortunately mum & dad would not be around forever. We don’t know how much time have we got left , before things will change, forever.
Our biggest fear should be the “Silence of the Majority”. Most of us pretty much share the same opinions, but we’re standing on the sidelines, observing the events around us as if we are watching a movie, as if we do not participate, cannot get involved. We sit back and see what happens, hope for a happy ending, and if we don’t like what we see, we can simply switch to a different channel.
When things don’t work out the way you want, or when something bad happens to you, it might feel like the issues you are facing right now are the worst possible problems in the whole wide world. So what should you do about it? How about you take a step back and assess everything from a different, wider perspective? you have to look at the BIG picture.
So what is the purpose of all of this? I was asking myself while looking back at how my recent day-to-day life has been evolving in the last few years. Feels like I’m stuck in my own routine, day in and day out. Although everything may be going alright, I remind myself that Life is a Choice and thankfully we do have the ability to make our own choices in life. Evidently, what I currently experience and the way I live is based on the choices I’ve made. It’s up to me to change it…
You only live once, so make the best of it. Your kids are the most important thing in your life, so make sure you spend as much time as possible with them. Don’t let other things get in the way. Be there with them, be there for them. Enjoy it while you can.