Living away from home? Torn between your obligations to your own family – wife and kids, and the family you have left behind – mum and dad? You chose to live in a different continent, so that’s the price you have to pay – living with endless, consistent, torturous GUILT.
Once you hit the middle age you start experiencing the probability of “the end of the road” around you. Our parents are aging and it’s hard to accept that, however while this is a natural thing after all, you suddenly realise that You and your surrounding friends and colleagues are surprisingly aging as well. Who would have thought!
Every parent would tell you the teenage years are such a joy. There are so many theories and explanations about why it is the way it is, effectively way more complicated than what it should be. Add to that the online social networks and we got a much wider problem, because now it’s not only the other school kids we have to worry about, it’s the world wide web. Life as a teenager can be quite complicated. But it doesn’t have to be like that.
Many of us get dragged by the capitalism of today’s western society, often unhappy with what we’ve got and forever chasing life to gain more and more. While capitalism focuses on the financial side of things, the flip side of the coin is how well we cope mentally with our own reality, with the choices we have made, and our state of mind. Why do we lack any appreciation of what we got, and carry on with our lives feeling unhappy and unfortunate?
Here’s an interesting exercise for you. Take a pen and a paper, write down your list of personal “core values” in order of priority. Revisit your list and make sure you prioritise it in the right order – top item is the most important value in your life, and so on. The list would change over the years, as we progress and age in life, so the order of your personal values when you’re in your 20s is likely to be different to when you’re in your 40s.
When was the last time you told your mum & dad that you love them? That you appreciate all they have done for you over the years? Unfortunately mum & dad would not be around forever. We don’t know how much time have we got left , before things will change, forever.
You only live once, so make the best of it. Your kids are the most important thing in your life, so make sure you spend as much time as possible with them. Don’t let other things get in the way. Be there with them, be there for them. Enjoy it while you can.